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Hey my name is Monica...Im 17 and im 7weeks pregnant. Im also in dfacs custody.My bf is as well and he wants me to keep the baby...however several people want me to have an abortion but i dont want to kill my baby....I turn 18 in 2 weeks and im thinking about signing myself out ....What should i do....im so lost....plz help me....

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I am sorry you are being put in this position. In my own personal opinion I would keep your baby as well. With an abortion I feel you lose a part of you that you can not get back, many people have side effects, regret and depression after as well. Babies are definate blessings and you will never regret having your Child and watching them grow! If you need to sign yourself out in order to keep your child I would defianately recommend doing so. There are many organizations that can help you through your pregnancy and after if you need some help getting on your feet! Sending prayers for you and your baby.Take care ❤
Can you talk to your social worker (or a different social worker) about support that might be available to you if you stay in dfacs? There might be additional resources available, I'd talk to more than one person to try to find out. Sometimes I put a phone call in, ask questions, hang up and call back to talk to someone else and see if they have different information. You want all the support and resources you can get, not just for your sake.
I was talking to a woman yesterday who said her mother was about your age 50 years ago and everyone was giving her advice, mostly not to keep the baby, but one aunt Said not to listen to all that advice, because those other people don't have to live with the decision, you do. Either way. Having a baby is really really really hard (I have a very wanted one and a half year old and I'm 30 and married and have a house and it is so, so, so hard) and not having the baby can also be. It's up to you with what you can live with.

Open adoptions are also more and more of a thing. You get to pick a family that can help support and care for your child, while also helping and supporting you and keeping you in your child's life without the full burden of parenting, but still the meaningful lifelong important connection of being that child's mother, one of their mothers. Those organizations can also give you a lot of support, free counseling, advice, resources, etc.
Sending lots and lots of love for this big time ahead of you.
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Keep your baby. I was in custody at your age and I know it sucks but now I am 44 having my second daughter in couple weeks. My love for my kids is what makes life so good. I have a great life and my kids also have a wonderful life. We don't have a lot of money or a huge house but we are very happy just being a family together. Find a job and get you a place. There are a lot of resources out there to help you. Just research it in your area. Don't give up on your family it won't give up on you. 

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